Casseroles, Snakes, and Stripper Poles
November 1, 2017
Before we start our usual Snarkable Snarkfest… I want to take a moment to focus on something significant and serious that happened during last week’s Survivor. Every once in a while – now, it doesn’t happen often – but sometimes when we’re not looking, the “real” gets put back into “reality” shows.
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Is Real
Ben is a United States Marine Corps Veteran and thus, a superhero amongst us (Yes, Grammar Police, I ALWAYS capitalize “Veteran” – You should, too).
A piece of bamboo that was burning in a tribe’s campfire suddenly popped making a loud gunshot-sounding noise that must have sent shivers down Ben’s spine. A second couple of explosions happened again only a few seconds later.
Ben audibly reacted and seemed shaken up by the gunfire-like sounds, but didn’t want to make a big deal about it. Ben instinctively soothed his frayed nerves by heading down the beach so he could float in the tranquility of the ocean’s water.
Ben confides to us that when you’re in combat and then come back home – there’s no way to fully adjust. He describes, “There’s things upstairs that are there forever.” Our hearts break for him.
Ben vulnerably reveals, “Coming back with that stuff — it’s hard and you feel lonely, and you feel that nobody understands.”
Ben further explains how most people have no idea what it’s like to have people actively trying to kill you (My husband just said, “Well, it depends on who you’re married to… but I digress)… I imagine the extended length of time our Veterans are required to daily deal with being human targets only further exacerbates the residual PTSD effects.
Personally, I have PTSD from my heart attack and its resulting surgeries. It was real, life-threatening, and a very big deal. I have changed in tangible ways that I will explore in a future post I’ve been promising to write… I just can’t write it at the moment. It’s still too hard. Even writing this particular segment is hard.
The thing is – the event I experienced was a single, solitary event occurring on a specific day at a certain time. Yet, even at that… it has daily residual ramifications…
However, it is nothing… NOTHING at all to what Veterans like Ben have lived through.
Can you imagine living life in a perpetual heightened sense of alert because people are actively trying to kill you? It’s beyond my brain to understand what it’s like to hear sporadic gunshots all day and all night for an extended period of time while knowing you and everyone around you have targets on their backs.
Ben credits his wife with saving him from his demons, his nightmares, and the past. He tells us he used to live in the past. Ben profoundly says, “The past will eat you alive – but the future will save you.”
Ben further states there’s more at stake than attaining his goal of winning the million dollars. He envisions, “But there’s a bigger picture – And it’s bigger than me, my family, the game of Survivor – It’s about being able to show Vets who have gone through battle, and war, and depression, and PTSD – That there’s a way to life outside of all that hell… And that’s what I’m doing.”
Why yes, yes you are. Ben, you are my hero… You are OUR hero… How can we even POSSIBLY begin to thank you for your service?
Instantly, Survivor is infinitely more interesting…
Slithering Like the Snakes They Are
Also on Survivor, there was an interesting challenge that required members of each tribe to be staggered at various points along a sandy race course. They had to slither head-first with their arms pinned at their side along the course on their belly like the snakes they are. They were required to use their faces to nose a ball along the length of the course.
Their sweaty faces were soon thickly caked and their eyes were immediately blinded as they hurled their bodies through the stubborn sand. I imagine they inhaled a few pounds of sand in the process. A good source of protein? No wait… fiber… that it… fiber… lol.
This would have been bad enough – but there were also a couple of small hills here and there they had to maneuver over. A couple of people had a LOT of trouble with this.
Nosing a ball up a hill while on your belly is not fun or easy – If you think it is, try doing it up that grassy hill in your own backyard.
Speaking of slithering snakes…
So you’re still confused about what sexual harassment is? Just watch last night’s Below Deck and you’ll have a front row seat.
The charter guests like Jen… I mean, they really, really LIKE Jen.
They like her so much that when Jen brought freshly ironed pajamas down for one of the female guests, she took the opportunity to tell Jen that her husband really liked her. Jen politely said, “Well, thank you.”
The guest closed the door to her cabin while telling Jen, “You’re not allowed to leave.” The camera crew was left outside in the hall filming the “In Case of Fire – Break Glass – Press Here” thingie on the wall.
You hear Jen say, “Don’t take it off” – “Stop, stop, stop, stop”…
The guest says, “I’m just giving you what you want – lots of sexiness.” It was clear the guest had taken off her shirt.
Jen says, “No, no…” – It’s hard to know what, if anything else happened because of editing… but the situation ended in a hug and Jen offered the guest a shirt.
The cameras were filming through it all. ‘Cuz this is all just funny, right?
Jen comes out of the door looking like a deer that was literally trapped in the guest’s “headlights.”
I don’t know if it was creative editing, but at the end of this scene, the woman is wearing something completely different as she closed the door behind Jen AND her husband is somehow in the room.
It was edited to make us think it was one continuous scene… and it may well have been… but when did the husband get in the room? <shiver>
Jen tells Kate (her direct boss) she’s not going down those stairs (to the guest cabins) for the rest of the charter. Jen tells Kate that she was trapped in a room, was told to hug, and undress. We don’t see how Kate responded to her at that time.
The next day, in keeping with the theme of a “bow ties and pearls” beach picnic (like THAT’S an appropriate theme for a beach picnic…lol), Kate offers Jen a pearl necklace with a whistle for if she’s ever not feeling safe. I don’t know if it was meant to be funny or protective… but okay.
Later at dinner, the guests are all fawning over Jen and showering her with compliments – especially about her cute dupa.
At one point, Jen is specifically asked to reach across the table to pick up a deck of cards thus forcing her to lean over the table. As a result, the same female guest as before puts her hand right on Jen’s butt.
After looking at the footage a couple of times, this all seems like it was an orchestrated grope… There was no reason for Jen to have to pick up the deck of cards at all. This was all ON camera. Are we laughing yet?
Jen again tells Kate about it. Kate responds, “It happens…” In Kate’s talking head, she says that she guesses when they serve too much [alcohol] that guests seem to think they can sexually harass the yacht crew.
Kate then says an “experienced yachtie” learns how to deal with this kind of charter guest. She said, “Unfortunately, Jen is not a yachtie.” This implies, of course, if Jen was more “experienced” she would have known how to handle the situation better.
This situation should NOT be normalized… Why didn’t production stop filming and rescue Jen? How did this get aired?
Jen handled it as best as she could in front of the guests… She was just telling Kate (her supervisor) exactly what was going on and how it made her feel. It was Kate’s job to act on it.
This is NOT Jen’s fault… (A more sarcastic blogger would have said, “It’s not Jen’s fault she has such a “cute butt.”)
Generally, I think Jen IS a pain in the a$$… Butt in this situation she needed to be protected. See? Even my jokes about it fall flat… BECAUSE IT’S NOT FUNNY!
I guess in yachting, as in almost every other industry known to mankind, we’re conditioned to think the customer/guest is always right… Especially when there’s money to be made…
Except, you know, it’s NOT right. This was NOT right on so many levels.
Why should employees in the service industry be required to put up with this kind of crap from customers? The problem is that if they don’t, their customers will happily take their business and tips elsewhere. Crap like this happens ALL of the time and we just laugh it off.
Jen should have been able to say, “Get your fu*king hand off my a$$, you creep.”
Let’s imagine for a moment that a male guest had cornered Jen in his cabin, exposed his hangie down thingie to her, and later put his hand on her dupa…
Are we more appalled that it was a male versus a female? Should we be?
The Housewife Who Cried “Wolf!”
The Real Housewives of Orange County (RHOC) are still in Iceland. After a day of strenuous hiking, Vicki returned to her room and felt weird. She was light headed and dizzy. Her heart was racing. Her face was flushed. She had numbness in her hands.
A doctor came into her room to assess what was going on. The hotel also had called Iceland’s version of 911 at some point. The doctor was trying to ascertain Vicki’s symptoms while having to deal with Peggy and Kelly who were being very loud and verbal.
It was unclear if Vicki was having an anxiety attack or a heart attack at the time. Without going into a lot of detail, Tamra, Peggy, and Kelly were being unnecessarily bothersome to the medical personal who were trying to do their job while being filmed.
They were all finally kicked out of the room by the hotel manager with a stern admonishment.
Here’s the thing… When someone is having a heart attack OR an anxiety attack – the LAST thing they need is unnecessary commotion. Get the HELL out of the medical personnel’s way so they can do their jobs, you idiots.
The problem is that Vicki tends to over exaggerate the seriousness of minor things in order to get attention. She has a pattern of doing this over and over again. So when major things happen… you really don’t know how serious to take her.
However, let me be crystal clear (“Is there any other kind?”)… If there’s any question at all that you (or someone around you) might be having a heart attack… GO TO THE HOSPITAL… EVERY SINGLE DANGED TIME…
I don’t care if it might embarrass you… It’s better to be embarrassed than dead.
As I’m typing this, my eyes are once again filling with tears. As someone who almost died from a heart attack because I didn’t think I was actually having one… If you ever find yourself in a situation with someone who isn’t sure about what’s going on and doesn’t know what to do…
Listen to my tender voice inside your head SCREAMING at you, “CALL 911 – AND GET YOUR A$$ TO THE HOSPITAL!”
Your decision NOT to act could be fatal. I’m being as serious as a heart attack… See? A little levity helps make my threats go down somewhat easier, no?
Since this episode aired a couple of days ago, I’ve read so many ignorant comments about how it was clear to them that Vicki wasn’t having a heart attack because she didn’t have any pain.
Let me educate you… I had NO pain when I had mine… I just couldn’t catch my breath… and it all started with a laugh. It felt like aliens were having a party in my abdomen and my stomach – It felt kinda hollow like some little tiny fireworks were going off or something.
Let me restate this – I had NO pain whatsoever. My arm was fine. No numbness… No dizziness. I was fully alert and cracking jokes. My heart was beating at a mighty rate of 28 – so the paramedics were convinced their equipment must be off or something – because evidently I should NOT have been as okay as I was if my heart rate was actually that low…
Also, you should be aware that the symptoms of women’s heart attacks can be very different than men’s. Here’s a list from the “WebMD” website: https://www.webmd.com/heart-disease/features/womens-heart-attack-symptoms#1 There are other great websites with helpful information as well… Google them…
So Vicki gets taken to the hospital via ambulance. No one is allowed to ride with her. Peggy seems to be really agitated about it because it’s bringing up memories of what she went through with her Dad.
The women seem to think Vicki may be over exaggerating things once again. Maybe she is… or maybe she isn’t.
Kelly and Meghan decide to go to the hotel restaurant to have dinner since they’ve not eaten all day. Lydia went down to the restaurant to tell them she had secured transportation to the hospital and it looked like she expected them to come along with her.
Kelly really wanted to eat first. It was decided Lydia would go – and when they finished eating, Kelly would go later so they could be at the hospital in shifts. Tamra and Shannon joined them for dinner, also.
Peggy decided after a conversation with her husband that she should go directly to the hospital. Kelly asked Peggy to wait until after Kelly was finished eating. Peggy didn’t want to wait – She wanted to go right then. She said that her husband told her to go to the hospital so that’s what she wanted to do. Kelly was pissed off that Peggy didn’t want to wait for her to finish dinner.
Everyone flipped out that Peggy was insisting to go right then just because Diko told her to go.
If I squint my eyes and scrunch my nose I understand that 5 minutes one way or another MIGHT not be a big deal… Unless, you know… this is ALL a much bigger deal than they know at that time… We know it’s not – because we’re seeing this several months later and would have heard about it otherwise.
Did I mention the women were drinking wine and champagne while Vicki was in the hospital in a foreign country? It takes a special kind of callousness to be doing that, IMO.
I mean, technically they’re right… It’s test after test when you’re first admitted into most hospitals – so there wasn’t exactly an immediate need to rush to the hospital, I guess. The thing is – None of them knew if Vicki was actually having a heart attack or not.
Why not ask the restaurant to make some “To Go” bags with sandwiches or something you could easily eat at the hospital? You could then take enough for Lydia…
I mean none of them even waxed philosophical about the fragility of life or anything like that during this whole thing. What’s up with that?
I couldn’t get past Tamra and Kelly’s cavalier position about immediately going to the hospital when you consider what a bad time they gave Shannon and Meghan last season when they didn’t visit Vicki in the hospital after their dune buggy accident.
Shannon brings this up. Kelly seems to think it was very different because last year the hospitalization was as a result of an actual ACCIDENT… Versus, you know… having a heart attack… Huh?
I do NOT get it at all. Plus, I would want at least one other person to be there with Lydia, too. WHO ARE THESE PEOPLE??
I would say the women knew there was no way Vicki was having a heart attack because it requires her to actually have a heart… but that would be mean and passive-aggressive. The thing is – THEY’RE the ones who are acting like they have no heart.
Vicki is cleared and sent home from the hospital. Everyone but Lydia decides to stay up and drink all night in my favorite suite in the hotel – “The Antarctica Suite” … This includes Vicki.
They are all being really loud. I don’t understand why Vicki is drinking. She is probably on some kind of medication… I understand that she may WANT to drink… but really… Vicki just had a scare that landed her in the emergency room. Surely Vicki can go one night without drinking…
Tamra and Vicki finally make up when Kelly insists Vicki wasn’t spreading rumors about Tamra’s husband… Shannon is cranky about it… In other news, ice is cold.
What Do Neanderthals Order on Their Pizza?
On the Real Housewives of New Jersey (RHNJ), Melissa arrives a little late to a meeting with Teresa and Joe (her Neanderthal of a husband) at their newly purchased pizza parlor. In the previous episode, Melissa learned that Joe bought the restaurant without ever talking to her at all about it.
I would be LIVID if my husband ever did something like that… Especially since Joe has done nothing but grouse about Melissa owning her clothing store.
Melissa found out during this week’s episode that not only did Teresa know about Joe buying the restaurant before Joe told Melissa about it – but also that Teresa is an actual co-owner of it. Whoa… Joe and Teresa had even talked to their grieving Father about buying the restaurant before Joe ever mentioned a word about it to Melissa.
How pissed off would you be that everyone knew about this venture except you? Yeah, me too. I mean, it’s not like we all own cell phones and can shoot off a text in 10 seconds or less or anything…right?
The catalyst for this whole purchase is that Joe wanted to find his Dad something constructive to do for 4-5 hours a day. Previously, Melissa did advise Joe to try to keep his Dad busy to help him push through his grief.
Clearly, the ONLY reasonable option to keep their Dad busy was to buy a restaurant. <Insert “sarcasm” sign here> I just don’t get it… I don’t think anyone in their family has EVER owned a restaurant – Unless you count Teresa’s husband buying that other restaurant that failed a couple of seasons ago… but really, nothing that Teresa’s Joe EVER does counts, right?… lol.
They start talking about who will do what at the pizza place. Teresa says she can help cook. Surprisingly, Melissa agrees to hostess. However, Teresa seems to want Melissa to wait tables. Teresa then attempts to shade Melissa by saying Melissa will show up on weekend nights just to greet people.
First of all, yes Teresa… That’s exactly what she’ll do – ‘Cuz “greeting people” is what hostesses are SUPPOSED to do, no? Secondly, Melissa owns a whole other business, has kids, and wasn’t even consulted about this whole thing… Why should she automatically be expected to wait tables?
I am NO fan of Melissa… but I really hate the way Joe and Teresa treat her. It’s not okay. There is such a huge level of deep-seated disrespect… but I don’t think they can see it.
Frankly, I’m surprised Teresa didn’t snidely suggest that Melissa do some “exotic dancing” to help bring in the customers (In previous seasons, Teresa accused Melissa of working as a “dancer.”)
Wait a minute… They can’t have a stripper’s pole installed in the pizza place – Not because it’s a family restaurant… but because of the clear and present danger that Joe will start “dancing” on the pole, too… Ack!
In other, boring news…There was some more Siggy and the cake talk – and even I, supreme lover of cake that I am – Grow tired of crying over spilt cake.
Oh, and another thing… I predict the next thing we will hear about for the rest of the season is that Danielle accused Dolores of telling her that all Teresa cares about is money… Or that she cares more about money than about anyone…Something to that effect (Please don’t make me rewatch the episode)…
The truth is that we all know Teresa HAS to make money to support her family. Teresa is hawking a whole lot of products because of this. Can you blame her? Her husband is behind bars. He may never be allowed to work in the United States again…
Now, more than ever, Teresa HAS to be an opportunist. I’m also no fan of Teresa – but she paid her debt to society, did her time, has paid restitution and is trying to move forward.
I have no idea what Dolores said to Danielle or even IF she said anything to Danielle. However, Danielle has a LOT to gain by taking down Dolores or Siggy this season – because she wants to be a permanent housewife again…
Like almost every other housewife in history, Danielle knows how to “spin” situations to suit her own agenda and to create drama. This may be one of those times…
I don’t trust Danielle… Never have… I likely never will… But I admit she brings drama. I just prefer my drama a tad less skeevy.
The Best Quote of the Week
The chef on Below Deck was talking to Kate about what to make for the beach picnic lunch for the guests and seriously said, “Everybody on their preference sheets says lunch things like deli meats, ham, prosciutto, bread… so I was thinking of… like… um… tacos.”
Right… ‘Cuz nothing says “deli meats” and “bread” like tacos, right? Lol… Hilarious…Fortunately, Kate had the good sense to suggest sandwiches and salad. The chef thought it was a brilliant idea. Wow… Just wow.
Other Snarkable Reality Show Moments
- In last week’s final Battle Round episode on The Voice, coach Miley Cyrus completely surprised me when she used her final “steal” to spare Stephan Marcellus from elimination. This makes Stephan the sole male member of her otherwise all-girl team and the happiest/luckiest man in all the land. Previously, I openly snarked at Miley’s expressed desire to have an all-female team because I believed it gave females an unfair advantage over the men to remain in the competition. I was happily wrong.
- On the finale of the Real Housewives of Dallas, friendship allegiances changed once again, LeeAnne’s Mother came to town for her engagement party (Yes, I always try to remember to capitalize “Mother” too), and D’Andra’s big launch of the L22 product is going to be delayed because they can’t get the main ingredient – the L22…lol… However, this somehow does not deter D’Andra’s Mom from officially handing the keys to her multi-million dollar company over to D’Andra. It’s not like this was all preplanned for the finale or anything, right?
- Project Runway’s theme this week was “Warrior Women” featuring breast cancer survivors. When it was all said and done… although I do love me some Brandon – I don’t think he should have won this week… at all. Though I’m rooting for him to do well, even I’m tired of his clothes with loose strips hanging off of them. In the past, judges have SKEWERED contestants for designing the same thing over and over again. I guess those contestants must not have been as cute as Brandon, right? I think Kenya was totally robbed of her 1st win this week. Her design was gorgeous. For me, I think it was anti-climactic because I knew no one was in danger of actually going home because with only 5 contestants left, Tim was likely going to use his “Tim Gunn Save” on the eliminated designer… And he did… Margarita and her superhero costume live again to fight another day. I guess that’s what this is all about… living again to fight another day.
- On RHOC, the women presented Vicki with a casserole when she returned from the hospital. Last season when she was hurt, Vicki complained that she had expected everyone to have brought her a casserole. Giving Vicki a casserole in Iceland seemed like a total jab at Vicki – but she just didn’t get the joke… She didn’t understand they were MOCKING her… Or maybe she was just too hungry to care. I hope it was tuna… It’s my least favorite casserole of them all.
That’s it for this week’s “Snarkables” post… Thanks so much for reading!
I’m so excited to share something with you. I’m participating in a movement that encourages writers to write a 50,000 word novel during the month of November (National Novel Writing Month – #NaNoWriMo).
I have absolutely NO idea what I’m doing or how I’m doing it – Only THAT I’m doing it. Technically, this is my 2nd book… and I hope this process will inform me of how better to approach my 1st book series – the one I actually want to have published.
I feel like I need to do this so I can prove to myself it’s possible for me to write a book. Despite everyone’s great encouragement, I’m still not entirely convinced. I am my own worst enemy.
I will say this… When Mr. Stars heard the subject of this 2nd book, he instantly said it should be a series. I said, “Another one? I can’t write two of them…I’m barely able to write one”… lol. It made me feel so good.
Anyhoo… I’ll still be doing “Snarkables” posts every week or so – but I probably won’t be doing much other writing this month. However, I WILL be listening to a lot of Christmas music.
Video of the Week
They say, “Good things come to those that wait.” This is very true of this YouTube video that was posted by Brad Rich entitled, “Humpback Whales Feeding.” Be patient and watch for about a minute… Seriously… Trust me… Enjoy!
“Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.” www.nimh.nih.gov. National Institute of Public Health. Accessed on October 26, 2017 at: https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd/index.shtml
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